Dealing with a Cross Cultural Relationship

By Lorii Abela

When you’re about to enter a cross-cultural relationship with a Filipino woman, you may have certain apprehensions about her. You’re not alone in this: most people who plan on dating someone from a different culture go through this experience. It helps to know what to do and what to expect when this happens. This piece will hopefully shed some light on Filipina dating.

Getting Prepared

Being prepared means increasing your knowledge about the Filipino cultural background; there are several ways in which you can achieve this objective:

Read Up

The first thing you can do is to find some literature on the internet or at your local library about the Filipino traditions and culture. Get books written by Filipinos or even locals who have first-hand experience about the country and its people. Another way is to google for more information. The more you know about that Filipina woman’s background, the easier it is for you to make conversation.

Find a Friend

Another thing you can do is to look for someone in your office or circle of friends who is from the same country. They can give you first-hand information about local customs and cultural preferences better than any book or website.

Try Their Food

A third useful thing when dating a Filipina is to try out their food. Find a restaurant that serves Filipino cuisine and try it out with some friends. For starters, order some lumpia, pancit and adobo. When you’re finally out with your Filipina date, you’ll know what to order and she will appreciate the fact that you’re familiar with her unique foods. You would definitely be a big hit. You don’t have to become a connoisseur of Filipino food. However, be sure that you’re on the right track. For example, Asians come from a diverse range of countries – each with its own local flavors; it’s important that you don’t confuse their foods and end up embarrassing yourself when your date says: “But I’m Filipino! I don’t even like Sushi!!!”

Go to Their Hood

Yet another tip is to get a feel for their people. You can do this by visiting a suburb or neighborhood that is predominantly made up of people from the Philippines. You can easily do this in Metropolitan cities like California, New York, , Toronto, Vancouver, London, Barcelona and Sydney were many Filipinos migrated. Walk around, get a feel for the place and perhaps even catch a few local phrases that you can use. But be careful not to pick up profanity or slang – that might only antagonize your date rather than endear them.

Go to The Philippine Embassy

For authentic information about the Philippines, take a trip to the local embassy or consulate for some travel literature. These government offices are a rich source of real information that may be useful to you.

Your date will appreciate the lengths to which you have gone to make them feel comfortable, so do everything in your power to make sure that happens.